A few hours ago, I was sitting at The Toucan. If you've spent any amount of time in Kingston's music community, you probably already know the place. If you haven't, it's one of those venues that quietly becomes part of people's personal history. It’s a place where bands pass through, friendships begin and relationships end. New musicians find their audience and old musicians find their way back to themselves. The room changes every night, but somehow always feels familiar.
I've spent a lot of evenings there over the years. I've booked bands there. I've supported local artists there. I've watched traveling musicians unload their gear into the same back entrance that hundreds of musicians before them have used. I've stood in the front of the crowds, and I’ve stood at the back of the room. I've danced, cried and had life-changing conversations and completely ridiculous conversations about obscure bands that broke up twenty years ago and somehow still matter.
Tonight my friend was running sound for the band, which meant I spent most of the evening doing what I usually do when music is involved: floating from conversation to conversation, catching up with old friends, meeting new people, listening more than talking, and collecting little pieces of humanity that somehow always seem to find their way back into whatever I'm writing next.
Music has always done that for me, but it’s never really been just about the songs. The songs are the doorway, but the people are the destination. As the night wound down and everyone started making their way home, my friend Geoff gave me a hug and said something that followed me all the way back to my car. "Don't ever let that heart stop beating."
The thing about comments like that is they tend to hit differently at forty-eight than they did at nineteen. At nineteen, I probably would have laughed, made some sarcastic remark, quoted a song lyric, and wandered off into the night convinced I had all the time in the world to figure myself out. At forty-eight, you understand that people don't say things like that unless they've been paying attention.
That’s what I've been thinking about ever since, attention. This is not the kind of attention you buy or the kind algorithms reward. It’s not the kind social media measures; it’s the real kind. The kind that requires another human being to actually see you. When I think about the people who have shaped my life, it isn't the successful people who come to mind first. It isn't the wealthy people with the biggest platforms.
It's the artists, always. The musicians who have slept on a floor because they couldn’t afford a hotel room. The friends who handed me food when they barely had enough for themselves. The creative weirdos who somehow always found a way to make room for one more person at the table. The people who understood struggle because they were living it too.
I've spent my entire life moving between very different worlds. I've known people who have never worried about making rent. I've known people who have never had to choose between groceries and gas money. I've known people who have had every imaginable advantage. Many of them are wonderful people but when life became genuinely difficult, when things moved beyond encouragement and into action, I've noticed something interesting.
The people with the least often seemed the most willing to share. The artist making barely enough to survive but was willing to split a sandwich, the musician sleeping in a van who was willing to offer a sleeping bag and split the bench seat in the back. The single parent juggling three jobs was willing to spend an hour listening when someone else needed support. The people who knew what struggle felt like rarely treated compassion as a transaction.
That’s why I've always felt at home in creative communities. Because underneath all the music, movies, books, paintings, photography and poetry is a simple understanding that human beings need one another. It’s not a theoretical idea, or a maybe eventually, human beings don’t need each other at some point in the future, they need each other now
That’s why a comment I received earlier today stayed with me. Someone responded to one of my People's Artist posts offering to help me acquire more "legitimate" votes. The suggestion wasn't particularly surprising. We're living in a world that increasingly treats visibility as a commodity. Attention can be purchased, reach and influence can also be purchased. Entire careers can be manufactured through enough strategic spending and enough algorithmic cooperation.
I've watched enough marketing seminars to understand how the game works. The problem is that I've never been particularly interested in playing it. There’s nothing with advertising and there’s not anything wrong with financially supporting causes you believe in. In fact, one of the things I appreciate about this competition is that purchased votes ultimately support opportunities for artists. If someone chooses to spend money supporting me through the official channels, I appreciate it, and I appreciate where those dollars go but I won't be soliciting that support.
For me, this isn't really a contest, it's an experiment. It’s a very personal one. I wanted to see if human connection still means something. I wanted to see if relationships built over decades matter more than marketing strategies built over weeks and I wanted to find out whether authenticity still has a place in a culture increasingly optimized for performance.
I've noticed many of the other quarterfinalists running sponsored posts. Some may be funding those campaigns themselves while others may have supporters helping them. I genuinely wish them success, but their path isn't my path. My campaign, if you can even call it that, is built on conversations.
It's built on every venue I've ever stood in, every volunteer project I've worked on, every friend I've made and every person who crossed my path and left a little piece of themselves behind. While I may not fit everyone's definition of an artist, creativity has always been the thread connecting every chapter of my life.
I studied music and theatre, extensively. I spent years performing and I spent years writing. Then I spent years stepping away from those ambitions because motherhood asked something different of me. If I’m being honest, I don't see those years as separate things anymore. For a long time, I thought there was Artist Emily and Mom Emily and Volunteer Emily and Business Emily and all these other versions of myself competing for space.
Recent years I've realized they're all the same person. The performer became the storyteller. The storyteller became the mother, and the mother became the community builder. The community builder became the founder of Empress Media Operation. The mission never changed, only the medium did. I've always been trying to understand people and I’ve always been trying to help people feel less alone. That is what art has always been to me.
Art isn’t content, brand or engagement metrics, its human expression. A song that arrives at exactly the moment someone needs it, a story that makes a stranger feel understood. It’s a photograph that preserves a memory, a film that changes the way someone sees themselves or a conversation that reminds another person they matter.
The problem is that we've built systems that consume creativity while often failing to support creators. We ask artists to help us process grief. We ask musicians to soundtrack our lives and we ask writers to articulate feelings we can't find words for ourselves. We ask filmmakers to preserve our stories and then we tell those same people that their value is determined by clicks, algorithms, sponsorships, and marketability.
Somewhere along the way, we started confusing content with art. Content feeds platforms where art feeds people. if we aren't careful, we'll wake up one day to discover that we've optimized authenticity right out of existence. As I've been writing this tonight, another artist keeps finding her way into my thoughts.
That artist is Miss Emily. Many people in Kingston know her as a remarkable musician and songwriter. I've had the pleasure of getting to know her through the local music community over the years. Long before I met her, my friends in the Midwest indie scene used to call me Miss Emily. When I first heard her name, I laughed and took it as one of those little cosmic winks that seem to appear whenever life is trying to tell me I'm paying attention to the right things.
While I've been sitting here writing, I keep hearing her voice in my head. " Forever’s never guaranteed but I've got a good foundation in my bones. I am standing, standing, standing on my own but if you stand with me, neither is alone. In times of trial, we shall set the tone. There is strength, my brothers, in the standing stone."
Maybe that's the point I've been trying to make all along, not just tonight or through the course of this contest, my entire life. The artists I've known never taught me how to win. They taught me how to stand. They taught me how to keep creating when nobody was watching and to keep showing up when the room was half empty. They taught me how to share what little you have when someone else has less and how to build community instead of competition. Most importantly, they taught me how to choose connection over transaction.
This is why I fight so hard for artists and why I care so deeply about preserving stories. This is what The Human Archive is about and it’s why I’m building Empress Media Operation. This is why I'll keep doing this long after this contest is forgotten because somewhere, right now, somebody is listening to a song that is helping them survive or reading a story that makes them feel understood. Somebody is finding hope because another human being was brave enough to create something honest.
If there is one thing the creative community has taught me over the years, it is this: The most important thing an artist can give the world isn't entertainment, it's evidence. Evidence that someone else has felt this before and survived. Evidence that none of us are as alone as we think we are. As long as there are voices like Miss Emily's reminding people of that truth, I'll keep standing beside them.
After all, somebody once told me not to let that heart stop beating. I think the best way to honor that advice is to make sure as many people as possible hear the voices that keep the rest of us going.